Saturday, Feb. 02, 2019 11:39 pm
BBQ and Cemetery
Then Monday Mom fainted on the way to breakfast and had to go to the hospital again. After week I was ready to head north and my sister said, no, wait until daytime. So I relaxed, had a cocktail, and then she called two hours later and said, no, maybe I'd better come on up. It sounded like Mom's heart might not make it to the next day. I dashed up on the dark roads. Got to the hospital and my sister said she'd meet me in the lobby --- That really scared me because I thought she was going to tell me Mother died. But, no, she was fine. She was in the hospital until Thursday so I stayed and spent each night there and let my sister go on home. I came back and worked on Friday.
So I had a whole week here at home and a normal work week while Mom was adjusting to her new place. She's been very ditzy and forgetful and they've had a disaster with her toilet not working -- gross. I'll be going back up this week for my sister's surgery and will check on mom of course. I keep hoping things will settle down, but they may never.
I read an article about "ambiguous grief" and I think I am suffering from it. I grieve the loss of my good husband and the life I had while I'm angry at who he is now. I've been very lonely and weepy this week.
Today I went to Smithville for the opening of a new bbq place owned by a friend of mine. Then I came back by the natural burial woods where I might want to be buried. That's where my cat Willie's ashes are scattered. Sweet boy. I talked to him while I was there.
Came home, couldn't motivate myself to do anything (again) and slept. Then I tried to go to Sam's Town Point to see Cornell and have a beer, but their parking lot was packed and I gave up fast.
I've gotten so unmotivated that I can't even get excited about listing what I WANT to do or need to do. I think about it and sort of look forward to doing it after work or on the weekend and then that time gets here and I just don't want to do anything.
That's kind of where I am right now. It's almost midnight so I could go to bed and read a while (well, except sheets are in the dryer and I do have to make the bed). I came in here to do a tiny bit of Cunningham upkeep but I can't get into that either.
It's a low time, that's for sure.